This Is How Long You Should Wait to Get Married

Sophie Miura

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Deciding when to get married is such a personal choice. While some couples say their vows a year into a relationship, others wait much longer before even discussing the M word. So when is the right time to get married? According to Independent, science has the answer. 

Anthropologist and human behaviour expert Helen Fisher has spent decades studying love. According to her research, Fisher says couples who wait two years before getting married have a far higher chance at a successful, long-lasting relationship. Why? It turns out our brain acts differently when romance sparks. "One of the problems with early stage intense feelings of romantic love is that it's part of the oldest part of the brain that becomes activated—brain regions linked with drive, with craving, with obsession, with motivation." She notes that areas of the brain associated with decision-making and planning shut down during this time.

Fisher says current relationship trends work to our advantage. "There was a recent study in which they asked a lot of [dating] people who were living together... why have they not yet married and 67% were terrified of divorce," she says. Interestingly, she believes that fear of choosing the wrong partner is actually leading to healthier relationships. "I think... this slow love process of getting to know somebody very carefully over a long period of time is going to help the brain readjust some of these brain regions for decision making," she says. "You're going to get to know how this person handles your parents at Christmas... how they handle your friends, how they handle their money, how they handle an argument... etc." The main message? Take it slow. Give your mind time to adjust to newfound love and if you're still giddy after two years, science suggests you might have found The One.

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