Our Editors Share the Best Advice They Learned From Mum
We know one thing for sure: We wouldn’t be anywhere if it weren’t for our mothers. Brave, caring, multitasking, strong, thoughtful, and fun, our mothers are our heroes—every day. To celebrate Mother’s Day this year, we asked Clique’s team of editors to share the best advice they learned from Mum. Be it a lesson taught directly or learned indirectly, these little bits of wisdom are tried-and-true, heartwarming, and inspiring. Read on below.
“Every time I got into an argument with someone when I was growing up, my mother would ask me, ‘Well, what did you do?’ She’s a first-grade teacher and knows that people—whether they’re 6 or 36 years old—often push other people’s buttons, intentionally or otherwise, and then are surprised when they get snapped at in response. While I found it wildly frustrating as a kid, as an adult, I really appreciate her advice, because it makes you think about your actions and how others perceive them.” — Hillary Kerr, Co-Founder, Clique.
"Long before Sheryl Sandberg came along with Lean In, my mother encouraged me to 'sit at the table with the big boys' and 'make myself indispensable' by learning the ins and outs of every job I took on… From fashion assistant to content director, she has inspired me to be a confident, thoughtful, and kind leader, and for that I am eternally grateful." — Alex Taylor, Executive Director of Strategy, Clique.
“If you are nervous about a situation, whether it's a job interview or a blind date, just act confident, natural, and relaxed, even if you feel the opposite. Emotions are highly transferrable, so people will read your cues and respond in a similar way. If you act unsure, nervous, or uncomfortable, you're telling the other person they should feel that way too.” — Kat Collings, Editorial Director, Who What Wear
"Take a deep breath and just do it. I apply it to all aspects of my life.” — Bobby Schuessler, Senior Fashion Editor, Who What Wear
"My mum always made sure to remind me that if anything in my life wasn't making me happy, I didn't deserve to have a place in it. I pretty much live by that." — Raleigh Seldon, Social Media Editor, Clique.
“My mum is absolutely, shamelessly exuberant. She has an incredible sense of humour about everything and such a generousness of nature. She can befriend anyone, anywhere, no matter what mood she may be in—or what mood the person she encounters is in. It is infectious, and I have seen it work magic on every type of person, in every manner of situation. Though I don't have it down fully (and may never), this has taught me to work to encounter life and those around me with a certain buoyancy.” — Dana Covit, Market Editor, MyDomaine
“My mum always taught me to take life one thing at a time. Whenever I feel overwhelmed, stressed, or as if I've lost control, my mum can calm me down and remind me that nothing of value gets done if your head is in a million different places. Breathe, focus, and tackle your seemingly endless to-do list one item at a time, and soon it will all feel manageable.” — Liz Lynch, Senior Editor, MyDomaine
“My mum has always encouraged me to follow my heart—whether it's in relationships, work, or simply new experiences. It's a little scary, but a lot of us tend to play it safe and put up with things that don't make us happy, because we think it's the smart thing to do. This message always helps me when I have a difficult decision to make. I simply ask myself, Is this making you happy, or is it causing you stress and hurting your personal growth? I usually know the answer right away.” — Jasmin Perez, Social Media Editor, Clique.
“Always hold the door for a lady. This has become engrained in my muscle memory now, and it comes so automatic to me, even when I'm in a huge rush. The smiles and thank-yous have been worth it through the years!” — Mat Sanders, Editor at Large, MyDomaine
“The best advice my mum has given me is that you should have something to look forward to. Whether it’s a weekend getaway on the calendar a couple of months from now or a date with a girlfriend to try out a new restaurant later in the week, an exciting future plan can help get you through a stressful workweek, a depressing month after a breakup, or just a string of rainy, cold days.” — Julia Millay Walsh, Editorial Director, MyDomaine
“The best advice my mum ever gave me is that you can only do one thing at a time. At times when I'm overwhelmed with work, life, love, or all of the above, this simple phrase always enters my mind. It shows so much wisdom and is a truth that my mum shares with the most enlightened Zen Buddhist monks. Go Mum!" — Meghan Blalock, Managing Editor, Who What Wear
"Largely by example, when I was younger, Mum taught me so much about manners, politeness, and treating people with respect. I didn't even realise it at the time, but today I'm so appreciative because it's become something that is so important to me." — Nicole Akhtarzad, Associate Style Editor, Who What Wear
Want to read more motherly advice? Scroll below for a few books on lessons from Mum and other etiquette.
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