30 Questions to Ask Your Partner When You're Ready to Dig Deeper

Hadley Mendelsohn

Back in 1967, coincidentally the summer of love, social psychologist and professor Arthur Aron developed 36 questions that spark connection and intimacy between two people. He then spent decades researching love and published the study in 1997. And while no one question can actually guarantee love and connection, the notion that active listening and mutual vulnerablity—the willingness to really open yourself up to and receive someone else—can build empathy, trust, and warmth. 

Probing questions also tend to reveal someone's values, qualities, fears, and personal past, so even if they don't lead to love or you're already in love, they also help you learn a lot about your partner, friends, and self.

So with Aron's questions as inspiration, we came up with 30 questions to ask your partner, friends, or even yourself when you want to dig a little deeper. Whether you find yourself sitting in a long car drive with a loved one, or you simply want to get to know someone on a deeper level, these 30 questions to ask your partner will definitely beget some interesting conversations (or journal entries if you want to treat them as introspective prompts). 

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