Why Moving to a New Country in My 30s Was the Best Decision I've Ever Made

Sophie Miura

Have you ever entertained the idea of living abroad? Perhaps a vacation to Italy left you longing for a home among the vineyards in Tuscany, or season five of Girls planted the idea of moving to the neon metropolis of Tokyo in your mind. Whenever we're faced with a big, life-changing choice like moving overseas, there's usually a little voice in our heads that cautions us to take the safer path. For Zoie Kingsbery Coe, this voice was probably louder than most.

The founder of luxury family home rental site Kid & Coe was at a difficult junction in her life. Coe and her musician husband had just packed up their lives in New York City to relocate to Los Angeles. They'd found a gorgeous rental home in the tree-lined suburbs and had settled son Luca, now age 9, and daughter India, now 5, into new schools. The issue? They knew in their gut that L.A. wasn't right for them. 

Then Coe got pregnant with their third child, and they had to make a decision: Did they want to continue to lay roots in Los Angeles, knowing it didn't feel quite right, or should they pack up once again and search for a new home?

While others would consider moving overseas with two young children and a baby on the way somewhat terrifying, Coe leaned into the challenge. She put her family's possessions in storage, packed their suitcase with swimsuits and summer clothes, and booked one-way tickets to Ibiza, a small Balearic island off the coast of Spain, where they'd spent countless vacations. Now, a year on, she says it's one of the best decisions she's ever made. 

Wondered what it might be like to move abroad with your family? Below Coe on exactly what it's like, the biggest lessons she's learned, and why she'll never look back, as told to MyDomaine Australia.

The Best Decisions Are Made Instinctively

We did two big moves in the course of two years, which I now realise is crazy in retrospect. I consider myself a New Yorker, but after years of living in the city, my husband and I started to feel burdened by our lifestyle. There was a real disconnect between our values as a family and the life we were living.

So after toying with the idea for a while, we decided to pack up and move from New York to L.A. in the summer of 2015. It was super last minute! We hopped on a flight and looked at some schools for Luca and India. We pretty much arrived in L.A. with nothing but a couple of suitcases. It was crazy, but it felt so good.

We pretty much arrived with nothing but a couple of suitcases. It was crazy, but it felt so good.

Zoie Kingsbery Coe

As time went on though, something just felt amiss. It was a gut feeling. Our time in L.A. just felt surreal, like an extended holiday, which is ultimately why we decided to take the plunge and up-end our life again—this time, to another country where we didn't even speak the language: Spain.

I got pregnant with our third child, Ivy Love, and our lease in Los Angeles was almost up. We were about to have some major life changes so we thought, ok, it's now or never. And just like that, we knew it was the right time to move. 

Have you ever lived abroad with your family? What are the biggest lessons you learned? 

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