Don't Get Engaged Until You've Had These 5 Talks With Your Partner
People endlessly evolve throughout their lives—both as singletons and while in a relationship. But when it comes to deciding to spend the rest of your life with one other person, a few topics warrant a serious discussion (and a plan of action). As Tina B. Tessina, PhD, psychotherapist, and author of How to Be Happy Partners, tells Health, "Hashing out money, career, and other important issues before you put a ring on it can strengthen your bond and give you the confidence that you're a well-matched couple."
Below, find the five important conversations Tessina believes you should have with your significant other before saying "I do":
- Whether or not you want to have kids: "If the answer is yes, then there are many other questions to solve."
- How you plan to handle finances: "Just like a business, a marriage takes in income, pays expenses, and is supposed to have a little profit (think savings and equity) left over."
- Where each of you sees your career evolving: Doing so will "lay the groundwork for handling actual events and decisions in the future."
- How involved your parents will be in your life: "Where will you two spend holidays? If there are family members who have problems, such as financial stress, addiction, or mental illness, how much will that impact your relationship?"
- What role faith will play in your relationship and family: "New couples must learn to accept and appreciate each other's holiday celebrations and traditions."