3 Rules to Follow When You Think You Could Be Dating "The One"
Depending on your prior experiences, dating can be both a complicated concoction of fun and trouble (we all have those stories, right?). But one thing's for sure, after a while, trivial first-date small talk can become taxing, and truth be told, you would like to settle down and have the option of watching Netflix instead of waiting in line for the latest restaurant opening.
According to a few helpful tips by Nicole Yi on POPSUGAR Australia, if you are in the market for a partner and not just a fling, you may need to tweak how you go about dating.
Keep scrolling for the three things you may need to shift.
Take Things a Little Slower
Sometimes, the easiest way to end a relationship is by moving too fast. Before you decide whether all your boxes are ticked on the first date, make a conscious decision to go a little slower, and see whether the both of you are compatible. Yi agrees: "Not rushing will allow an authentic relationship to form and ultimately allow you to determine whether or not this person is really right for you."
Communicate Your Intentions
There's nothing worse than finding out that the person you've been seeing for a while actually isn't interested in a serious relationship. So it could be worth making yourself, and what you want, clear right at the start. "Discuss what you both want out of the relationship from the start so that you're aware of where they stand also," says Yi.
And, when it comes to seeing if you and your date actually click early on, research conducted by the American Journal of Sociology also showed that communicating about yourself early on, means you may be able to feel an instant click. In the study, women who felt a connection on the date came down to finding "alignment and understanding," with the person they were dating.
Say Goodbye to Other Casual Dates
While it's common to be dating more than one person in the early stages of any relationship—until of course, there is the conversation about exclusivity—Yi suggests keeping things casual can make it a little harder to set the tone for commitment later. So, if you really feel like this guy or girl could be the one, what's the harm in keeping things exclusive from the get go? "Set the tone by keeping flings to a minimum, and if they're not a fit, move on to the next!"
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