These 29 Goals for Mums Are Totally Admirable (and Actually Attainable)
We’ve already talked about setting New Year’s resolutions to inspire a better 2018, but what about goals for mums this year? When you’re a better version of yourself—healthy, happy, fulfilled—your little one reaps the benefits, too. Not to mention that it’s wise to start teaching your kids goal-setting at a young age—and one of the best ways for them to learn is to watch you in action achieving your own dreams. (See, it’s a win-win).
It’s still January, meaning there’s plenty of time to start fresh for the year, so we rounded up the 29 goals for mums we think you should consider for 2018. We also chatted with six mums with children of different ages—3 months and older—about what they’re focusing on achieving in 2018.
Use this list as inspiration, but remember, every mum is different and you should tailor these goals to your family. Now, get your goals on.
Be gentle and patient: “The end of 2017 brought about an untimely divorce, and I’m finding myself in a new role as a single mum. I had to transition from a part-time SAHM to a full-time working mum and place my children in day care while living paycheck to paycheck. With my life—and my kids’ lives—turned upside down, being gentle on us all is vital. I’m starting to let certain expectations go. I’m living slower and savouring the time I do have with my children by putting the to-do list aside when they are awake. It’s a radical life shift, but I think 2018 will be our best year yet.” — Alex Evjen, stylist and blogger, AVE Styles
Get more sleep: Just because you’re a busy mum doesn’t mean that you don’t need your z’s. Aim to get at least seven hours of sleep every night (if humanly possible). And if it means one less Netflix show a night, so be it.
Make a budget: Knowing what you’re spending is the key to being able to save up for something fun (like that trip to Disney World, cough cough). Plan a few more game nights in versus dinners out, and you’ll be on your way to meeting your goals in no time.
Leave your work at the office: Be more present when you’re at home. This means once you leave your desk, your work should stay there. Your family will appreciate having more focused time with you.
Designate the dinner table a “cell-free” zone: If your kids are older, this includes them, too. Have a bin or special spot where everyone puts their phone after silencing it. Meals are the perfect time to ask each other about your days and truly connect—and we don’t mean connecting on social media.
Focus on self-care: “I believe it’s so important to take care of yourself in order to be the best mum you can to your kid. A lot of people have the misconception that being a parent means sacrificing who you are and your identity. Having kids doesn’t mean you have to give up what’s important for you as an individual. I think it’s so important to exercise, stay active, eat healthy, get pampered, go out on a date, and so on. For me as a mum, 2018, is all about focusing on self-care and self-love in order to be my best version for my daughter.” — Loreana von Plocki, creative director and founder, The Daily Bella
Find an outlet: Whether it’s yoga, mindfulness colouring, or reading, you need something to get out your energy. Carve out some time to engage in this activity a few times a week.
Cook dinner more often: Ordering in has never been easier, but delivery services can make it harder to be healthy. Make it a point to make dinner at home a few nights a week—and recruit your little ones as your sous-chefs.
Be more flexible: Part of being an organised mum means sticking to some schedules and rules. But it's also wise to be flexible so you don’t get flustered when something goes awry.
Spend more time with your partner: “With the New Year, we all want to set our sights high. But I’m all about being practical with the goals I set. My husband and I take a trip every January to celebrate our anniversary (a little late) but perfect timing after the holiday craziness. And every time we get back, I feel refreshed. The time away is so critical for our relationship, but I come back home with a motherly energy I can’t explain.” — Jamie Lynn Gernert, lifestyle and fashion blogger, Work Your Closet
Take more baths: And we mean those with tons of bubbles, a relaxing playlist, and maybe even a glass of wine. Because after all, a bath that’s less than 30 minutes doesn’t even really count now, does it?
Have a girls’ night: Don’t forget those gals who were there before all this craziness of life happened. Even if it’s something as simple as a Friday night pizza party once a month, it will be a great chance to catch up.
Laugh often: Remember in the midst of making lunch and giving baths that you and your kids should have a little more fun. Sing songs while cleaning up after playtime or watch a silly TV show together before bed.
Ask for help: This can be everything from finding a sitter for date night or asking your partner or friend to pitch in when you have to be in two places at once. Remember, you’re a mum, not a miracle worker.
See your child for who they are: “My most important goal for this year and years to come is to really see our son for who he is and to nurture that spirit. I will always try to guide him, but I hope to keep the focus on helping him come more fully into himself rather than trying to shape him into an idea of who I’d like him to be. So this year and always I will focus on understanding who he is, what his particular needs are, and how I can best help him along his path.” — Sarah Yates Mora, creative director and editor, A House in the Hills
Teach your child to speak up: If something’s not right, you want your kid to call it like it is. Lead by example when it comes to this goal for mums.
Help those less fortunate: Instead of simply writing a check, plan a fundraiser or spend time at a soup kitchen. Only in helping others do we truly become selfless.
Stop having FOMO: Your life is different now, but you should embrace it. Is there really anything better than snuggling up for a pajama party with your child? We think not.
Drink more water: Water helps with pretty much everything—even anxiety. Make the effort to have everyone in your family consume more H20 (infused water can make the whole experience seem more exciting).
Find 30 minutes a day of “me” time: “As a new mum (my baby is 3 months old), I’m just starting to emerge from the newborn postpartum fog. I’m starting to feel my body again and reconnect with myself. When I start my day with meditation, I spend the rest of the day on a higher vibration, I’m more patient and calm, and I’m able to enjoy all the little moments. (Instead of wallowing in self-pity over being woken up at 3 a.m., I smell the top of my baby’s head and relish my incredible luck on having given birth to a beautiful, sweet, healthy baby.) If those minutes expand to an hour, I love to fill out my self-care checklist and make a smoothie. When I start my day like this, I’m able to care for my baby in the purest way.” — Laney Crowell, founder, The Moment
Challenge yourself: To a marathon, a healthier meal plan, or even a new (seemingly scary) hobby. Getting out of your comfort zone will give you the confidence you never knew you had.
Focus on experiences, not things: There are always more material goods we can indulge in, but they don’t necessarily make us feel better. If you’re going to splurge, do it on a family vacation or outing like to the ballet or museum.
Embrace talk therapy: Do you find yourself constantly anxious or having sleep problems? Make a standing date with a trusted therapist so you can become you, only better.
Have designated “cheat” days: Where you stay in your pajamas all day, make pancakes for dinner, and the most work you do is put on a face mask.
Make health a priority: “My goal for this year is that I want to be more respectful of my health. I feel like since both of my little ones are in school now I have more time to devote to staying healthy so I can be around as long as possible for them. So far it’s working out, and I feel like I can be a better mum when I feel more balanced overall.” — Jessica Doll, photographer and blogger, Hej Doll
Start—or finish—a degree: Always wanted to learn a new skill or get an advanced degree? Your children will be so proud to see mum just going for it.
Inform yourself: Know what’s going on in the world and how it affects you. You may not like everything you hear, but you’re at a disadvantage if you’re not educating yourself.
Say “I love you” more often: To a special someone, to your parents, friends, and especially your child.