Are You Making These 6 Early Dating Mistakes? Don't Worry, an Expert Can Help

Kelly Dawson

The rush of attraction can be all-consuming. In the first weeks and months of getting to know a certain someone, when your mutual stories somehow seem funnier and more insightful, time spent together can feel as though the world has blurred so that your bond could come into focus. And that's a lot of fun—but it can also be precarious.

"You should maintain balance in your life," says Kelly Campbell, associate professor of psychology and human development at California State University, San Bernardino. "It is a mistake to spend all of your time with a new partner. Besides causing damage to yourself, such as losing your identity or losing friends, doing this often turns off a new partner, too."

Naturally, advice like this isn't exactly what someone in this stage of a relationship wants to hear. And yet Campbell's recommendation for maintaining relationships with loved ones and spending quality time alone is so that those who are falling in love can avoid common dating mistakes in the process.

"Listen to the opinions of your friends and family, too," she continues. "These individuals are better than you at evaluating whether the person is a good match and predicting whether the relationship will last. This is because when we are infatuated with someone, we tend to wear rose-coloured glasses, which causes us to distort reality. We emphasise our partner's positive attributes and minimise or disregard their negative qualities."

So other than buying a love fern and creating a Photoshopped family album a few days in—which we learned not to do thanks to How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days—what other dating mistakes can be avoided with a little perspective? We asked Campbell to describe common blunders and offer easy fixes as dates progress, and she also has advice for those who have made these lapses in the past. Because even though it's exhilarating to fall in love, it's also wise to keep your wits about you. 

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