Celebrity Couples Share Their Secrets to Long-Lasting Love
In an industry where new romances ignite each week and relationships last about as long as a new box-office hit, finding long-lasting love in Hollywood can be a minefield. Despite their A-list status and successful careers, a handful of Hollywood power couples have found a way to juggle success and ego with honesty and love. Read on to discover the secret to a successful relationship, according to our favourite celebrity couples.
Diane Kruger and Joshua Jackson have been linked since 2006 but are outspoken about their decision not to marry. “I’m not sure in the modern world that that’s the track that we’re taking,” the couple told Entertainment Tonight in 2013. Despite the lack of ceremony, Kruger and Jackson say their relationship is going strong, and attribute their long-lasting love to one secret. “All relationships are hard. It doesn’t matter what job you have, or how famous or miserable or poor you are,” Kruger tells Marie Claire. “I’m grateful that I met a person who feels the same about me. Therapy helps too!” Kruger says that seeking support has kept them together: “Therapy’s not about getting help; it’s facilitating yourself to deal better with life in general.”
Their secret: Ask for help. Every relationship experiences tough times, but it’s the way you respond to challenges that makes a difference. Don’t be afraid to seek support from professionals, friends, or family.
They’ve been married for 18 years and have three gorgeous children, but for Sarah Jessica Parker and Matthew Broderick, the secret to a long-lasting romantic relationship is honoring friendship first. “We really are friends beyond everything else, and we talk a lot,” says Broderick. His advice for other couples is to focus on open communication and laugh more: “Keep talking, I guess—I know how cliché that is! Too much silence is definitely not a good idea. She’s really funny; she makes me laugh. I’m very blessed being married to her,” he says.
Their secret: Friendship first. Chemistry and romance are important, but having a solid friendship is the ultimate foundation for a relationship that lasts.
During their 23 years of marriage, President Barack Obama and first lady Michelle Obama say they’ve experienced the highs and lows of marriage and have relished every challenge. “Marriage is hard work. Even the best of marriages require a lot of work—even if you’re married to your soul mate who has very few flaws. Building a life with a person other than yourself … and dealing with all of the bumps and the bruises and the joys and the pains that go along with life … it’s a challenge,” Michelle told Glamour. “Don’t give up on it. Just understand that you’re going along the path that everybody else goes on. Go in ready for the work.”
Their secret: Embrace the tough times. Be realistic and mindful from the start of a relationship that it will be challenging. Acknowledging that marriage is hard work and giving it your all are the first step.
After “months” of playing hard to get, model It couple Jasmine Tookes and Tobias Sorensen are very much in love. Their secret to prolonging the excitement at the start of a relationship? Avoiding routine and comfort. “I think never getting too comfortable too is key. If you feel too comfortable in your relationship, do something about it, get dressed up once in a while, and go on date nights instead of just wearing sweatpants 24/7,” Tookes tells Cosmopolitan. Oh, and no matter how relaxed the pair are, they vow to “keep the private things private,” says Tookes. “I say, You shut the door! Or I won’t date you anymore!”
Their secret: Fight comfort and routine. As tempting as it is to watch Netflix and chill every night, keep an element of spontaneity in the relationship by doing something new each week. Whether it’s cooking a homemade meal or buying tickets to a sports match, changing your routine will help bring back that first-date feeling.
When Brad Bitt and Angelina Jolie united in front of the camera while filming Mr. & Mrs. Smith, tabloid pressure was at an all-time high. Despite the scrutiny, the couple have been together for over a decade and say their secret to long-lasting love is learning to overcome differences. “It strengthens a relationship if you can pass those big fights and those big things where you really come head-to-head,” Jolie tells Redbook. “As much as we argue and fight, and we all have our challenges, at the end I say, My job is to love him.”
Their secret: Learn to fight fair. Talk to your partner about argument rules such as how you feel about cursing, yelling, or name-calling. Mid-argument, open your sentences with “I feel” rather than “you are,” to focus on emotions rather than accusations.
Victoria’s Secret Angel Doutzen Kroes and Dutch DJ Sunnery James tied the knot in 2010 at an intimate ceremony in Amsterdam. The photogenic couple have two children: son Phyllon and daughter Myllena Mae. With two conflicting schedules, the couple say prioritising time together is key. “We compare diaries a lot and count how many days that we are going to be apart. I definitely plan more,” she tells Vogue. Kroes says motherhood has boosted her modeling career but that she’s had to scale down commitments to balance her work and home lives.
Their secret: Prioritise time together, and be ready to alter your commitments and schedule to suit. Whether you're a world-class model-and-DJ couple or just trying to juggle two busy careers, staying in sync is a must. Set aside a night each week to spend time together and show that you’ll move other appointments to make it work.
Preparing to celebrate their eighth wedding anniversary, television host Ellen DeGeneres and actress Portia de Rossi say honesty and friendship have kept them strong. “We’re just really good friends and we talk about everything, and we never ever, ever lie to each other, like, not even the tiniest lies,” de Rossi tells Yahoo. “She’s the only person I want to hang out with. … She is my best friend.” DeGeneres adds, “We really don’t almost break up, we don’t fight, we’re madly in love, and I guess it’s boring.”
Their secret: Lead with honesty. Follow de Rossi’s advice and treat your partner like a best friend. Aways offer the truth, no matter how insignificant it might seem.
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One of Hollywood’s great love stories, actress Goldie Hawn and Kurt Russell have been together for over three decades. Hawn, 70, and Russell, 64, say their relationship isn’t perfect, but they’ve learned how to push through difficult times together. “In relationships, particularly love relationships, people are impatient. They don’t listen,” Hawn told People. “You have to want to stay together, and we really want to. Continuing to listen and grow is important because we get into bad habits in relationships. We’re cognizant of these things in our relationships, being mindful and caring and listening,” she says. Hawn also says living in the moment has helped them stay present in their relationship. When the couple started dating, she said, “We’re so happy now; why tamper the perfection? It’s like Kurt and I say, I hope to be with him forever, but maybe that won’t happen either. There’s no way of knowing those things.”
Their secret: Learn to listen and live in the moment. Don’t over plan your future; focus on being the best partner you can be in the present moment, and the rest will follow.
Chic It couple Olivia Palermo and Johannes Huebl put the same effort into their relationship as they do their impeccable sartorial choices. When it comes to going the distance, the stylish pair told Cosmopolitan Latina their mantra is simple: “I think it’s about trust and communication. Open communication and supporting one another,” says Palermo. “You should not be too uptight and not take things too seriously, but also enjoy a little bit.”
Their secret: Talk openly and often. Frantic schedules and individual careers can make it hard to pencil in time to properly touch base with your significant other. Prioritise time together without devices, to speak frankly.
“I was 18 when we first met, 19 when we started dating,” Beyoncé recalls about husband Jay Z. “There was no rush. No one expected me to run off and get married. We were friends first, for a year and a half, before we went on any date, [we were] on the phone for a year and a half,” she told Seventeen. “And that foundation is so important in a relationship. And just to have someone that you just like, is so important. And someone that is honest.”
Their secret: Separate the job from the person. When life becomes intertwined with ego, accomplishments, and success, your relationship needs a solid foundation. Getting to know your partner separate to their career or achievements helps remind you both about your core values and why you’re together.
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