How to Turn Your Home Into a Safe Haven (When You Want to Escape the World)
Remember the scene in The Holiday when Kate Winslet gets an unrequited text from her newly engaged ex and immediately closes all automated blinds in her plush Los Angeles bedroom and completely shuts the world out? That pivotal rom-com moment—when her pain renders her incapable of confronting even the simple task of being awake—represents how many of us felt on Wednesday morning and, to an extent, how we are still feeling today. The silver lining is that now the weekend is here, and you actually can escape the outside world for a day or two.
While we know very well that we must go on, stay positive, and be the change we want to see in the world, we can also take a respite to hit the reset button after an emotionally charged week. What do you do when you're feeling defeated and you just want to curl up in a ball and shut the world out? Try this 10-step routine to entirely hit the reset button—we promise you'll feel a little better by Monday.
Step 1: Get Rid of Bad Vibes
If you've been through a rough patch, chances are your environment is filled with negative vibes that are only contributing to making you feel worse than you should. Kick off your weekend by sage smudging your home—and clear out all negative ions to give your space a refreshed positive vibe.
Step 2: Turn Up the Happy Tunes
You may have been listening to breakup music all week, but now it's time to turn on the happy tunes. Stop the sorrow by playing your favorite upbeat songs, and dance to them if you need to. Anything to lift your spirits even a little bit.
Step 3: Order In (Everything)
Don't go out to run errands this weekend. Order everything in: your groceries, wine, takeout. You deserve to give yourself a break. Create your own survival kit: candles, chocolate, pasta—nothing is off-limits.
Step 4: Switch Off Your Tech
Turn off your phone, unplug your TV, get off the internet—it's time for a digital detox. In order to fully recharge, you need to break away from your depressing Facebook feed and take time for you. Read a book, pick up a hobby, DIY something—anything to get your mind off the things that are bothering you.
Step 5: Make It Extra Cozy
Pile on the pillows, bust out your cashmere throw, put on your favorite flannel pajamas—this weekend is all about comfort. If you want to make a pillow fort, go for it.
Step 6: Light a Soothing Scent
Set the mood by lighting a relaxing scent. Dim the lights, light a candle, and let yourself relax. If you don't feel cozy enough, try to re-create the ambience of your favorite spa.
Step 7: Cook Comfort Food
Grab your delivered groceries and cook yourself some serious comfort food. Is your poison mac 'n' cheese, lasagna, or a crockpot? Whatever it is, get in the mood for a long cooking session, turn up the tunes, open a bottle of wine, and deep-dive into the recipe you've been wanting to try for a while. The more challenging, the better. If you want to bake yourself a pie while you're at it—do it.
Step 8: Take a Long Bath
Before you settle in for the evening, take a long bath—not just a shower. Set the mood with candles and dimmed lights, put on relaxing music, bust out your plushest robe, and watch your fingers get pruney.
Step 9: Have a Netflix Binge
Have a Netflix binge, but now is not the time to watch a heavy documentary. Instead, put on something lighthearted that will make you feel better: a rom-com or a stand-up comedy show. Anything to make you crack a smile.
Step 10: Make Your Bed Sleep-In Ready
Refresh your sheets, pull out your eye mask, shut all your blinds—you're having a serious sleep-in session. Let yourself snooze far past your usual wake-up time. But once you do awake ultra refreshed, it'll be time to stop feeling sorry for yourself and turn a new leaf.