The Life-Changing Things 7 Successful Women Did in Their 20s
Your 20s can be an incredibly daunting time whether you're at school or you're in the workforce or both, there's a lot of pressure to do something with your life. But if you don't become a millionaire before you're 30, don't stress, because if the success stories of some of the world's most talented women are anything to go by, your 20s are where you create those career-changing building blocks. Scroll down for some of the life-changing moments that shaped the careers of some of our favourite leading ladies.
Opportunity comes when you least expect it, and in varying forms, just ask Tina Fey. The wildly successful actress, comedian, writer, and producer is one of the greatest of our generation and yet she started out just like us working part-time jobs to make ends meet. In fact, the actress wrote in her book Bossypants that her life-changing moment was getting a job that barely paid anything. After graduating from the University of Virginia, Tina landed a gig at an improv and sketch comedy theatre called The Second City in Chicago. "I moved to Chicago in 1992 to study improv and it was everything I wanted it to be," she writes. "It was like a cult. People ate, slept, and definitely drank improv. They worked at crappy day jobs just to hand over their money for improv classes." Fey toured the country with this company and was paid just $100 a show and a $35 per diem, which wasn't always a guarantee either. "Of course, sometimes you'd have a show in Kansas, so you'd have to ride in the van for two days to get to your [hundred-dollar] gig," she writes. "It wasn't lucrative, but it was show business!" And despite the pay, Fey told NBC News that Second City was "the best job I ever had." By age 27, she was eventually hired at Saturday Night Live and promoted to head writer just two years later, a female first.
Gwyneth Paltrow is an Academy Award-winning actress, popular author and CEO of the lifestyle and e-commerce site, Goop. But before she hit her stride, Paltrow had to "scrounge quarters to buy Starbucks." Paltrow told her father she was going to quit UC Santa Barbara to "try to be an actress" and he did what most parents would, he supported her decision then made her do it on her own. She told Glamour: "My dad was like, 'That's great, but I'm not gonna help you.' I was like, 'Yeah, right.' And he was like, 'No, I'm not.' So I got an apartment with a roommate; I worked as a hostess at a restaurant; I would scrounge quarters to buy Starbucks—and walk there to save gas. I remember once asking my dad for money, like, 'Please, I'm really stuck. Can you help?' And he said, 'You're more than welcome to come over for dinner.' That was it."
Thankfully her career took off by the time she was 26, but despite an Oscar for her role in Shakespeare in Love and major roles such as Pepper Potts in the Iron Man movies, Paltrow's father was there to bring her back down to earth which she credits for changing her life. "I remember my dad once sat me down when I was 25 or 26," she told Glamour. "I was in the middle of this storm of success, and my dad was like, 'You're getting weird.' [Laughs.] I was like, 'Oh my God, I am. Oh, sh-t.' I mean, I got it. I thought I was so awesome for a minute. He was like, 'Let's stop this bullsh-t now.' I was like, 'Oops.'"
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From the beginning, Diane Von Furstenberg was an independent, free, and self-reliant woman, traits she credits her mother for and which steered her course for success early on. But it was when a friend invited her to a party in Gstaad, Switzerland from boarding school that “changed the course of my life." Here she met her future husband, Prince Egon von Fürstenberg who she subsequently married in 1969 and gave birth to their first child together just a year later at age 24. They had their second just a year later. During this time, Egon introduced her to Angelo Ferretti, an Italian scarf manufacturer who produced Diane's famous jersey dresses. Despite being a European princess living in New York and a regular fixture at Studio 54, Von Furstenberg says she was still intimidated when she first met the iconic American Vogue editor Diana Vreeland to present her range of jersey dresses."What I’m fascinated by is the beginning of your adult life, somewhere between 19 and 25,” she told The Daily Beast. “You have all of these doors in front of you, and you don’t know which door is going to be the important one. How would I have known that Angelo Ferretti was going to be such an important person in my life? And that’s life—that’s just it!"
It's hard to forget Hilary Swank's powerful and haunting performance in Boys Don't Cry and yet despite winning the Acadmey Award for Best Actress after this film, she barely had enough money to live on or life insurance. Of course her success after this movie has made her a household name, Swank was an unknown actor before filming began and a high school dropout. "I ended up dropping out of high school. I'm a high school dropout, which I'm not proud to say," she told CBS News. "I had some teachers that I still think of fondly and were amazing to me. But I had other teachers who said, 'You know what? This dream of yours is a hobby. When are you going to give it up?' I had teachers who I could tell didn't want to be there. And I just couldn't get inspired by someone who didn't want to be there."
So at 15 and a half, her mother packed everything and moved to California with $100 and a Mobil card. They shacked up in their car for a couple of weeks before Swank landed her first role in Beverly Hills 90210 at age 23. She was "fired" from the show soon after, but this turned out to be a significant turning point in her career. Swank was quickly offered the lead in Boys Don’t Cry which only being paid just over $100 a day, a little over $4000 for the film. This didn't matter much to Hilary who was just happy to be working in the craft that she loved. "My mum said to me that I could do anything I wanted in life. As long as I worked hard enough," she adds. "And to this day, it still makes me really emotional, because I just never questioned it, you know? She just always believed in me."
When you have Peggy Lipton and Quincy Jones for parents and grew up playing with Kim Kardashian and Paris Hilton, you'd be forgiven for thinking that Rashida Jones was fed with a silver spoon, but despite her upbringing, her 20s were spent battling ancient social stereotypes and racism. "When I audition for white roles, I’m told I’m 'too exotic,' she told Glamour magazine in 2002, aged 29. "When I go up for black roles, I’m told I’m 'too light.' I’ve lost a lot of jobs, looking the way I do."
Her experience with racism at Harvard was life-changing because despite the difficulty she experienced, it helped shape her future confidence and identity. “Harvard was supposed to be the most enlightened place in America, but that’s where I encountered something I’d never found in L.A.: segregation," she adds. "I had to choose one thing to be: black or white. I chose black." She credits her older sister Kidada for helping her say "no" and persist. "Toughing it out when you don't fit in: That was the strength my sister gave me," she said.
Before you were crying with laughter at her character during her hit comedy, Bridesmaids, Kirsten Wiig spent her 20s working numerous odd jobs to pay the bills. It was only by chance that Wiig came into acting. She majored in studio arts at the University of Arizona and took an acting class to "fill a requirement" when the teacher told her she should continue acting. "I was like: What? No — I’m. . . . No. It didn’t even cross my mind," she told The New York Times, but Wiig eventually dropped out of school in her early 20s and moved to Los Angeles to try it out. That's when she spent the next decade working various part-time jobs from folding clothes at Anthropologie, to selling peaches at a farmer’s market, trying her hand floral design, selling hot dogs at shopping centres, and even babysitting. It wasn't until her 30s that she finally scored a full-time role on Saturday Night Live.
She is a bright, talented and successful woman about to enter her 40s, but Reese Witherspoon told Harper's Bazaar she was "scared of everything" in her 20s. The A-list actor met her first husband, actor Ryan Phillippe at age 21, had their first daughter at 23, and three of her biggest films were released during her 20s, but despite her success, she was terrified and unable to enjoy really it. "I'm much more open now," she said. "In my 20s, I was scared of everything. I didn't know what my career was. I didn't know why people liked my movies. I was wary of interacting with people. I was 25 when Legally Blonde came out, 26 for Sweet Home Alabama, and 29 for Walk the Line. And I was scared, really scared. Now I feel like a different person. It's a great thing getting older. You are who you are; you say what you mean. I kind of enjoy that!" Turns out fear was a driving force behind Reese's success with notable films under her belt, a production company Type A Films, and a major home and clothing line, Draper James.
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