The Unexpected Habits of Happy Couples
We all know relationships take work, but sometimes it can be the most simple of things that really keep the spark alive—even after years of dating or marriage. Whether it’s a simple kiss goodbye or taking a 10 minute tea break together, taking a moment together every A.M. could have more of a positive impact of your connection than you ever could have imagined. Just ask the experts.
The Huffington Post Australia recently spoke with a variety of relationship experts, psychologists, and dating coaches to find out what morning habits happy couples keep to maintain healthy and fulfilling relationships. Because let’s be honest, a small glimpse of the day-to-day lives of the happiest couples is always a welcome refresher. Read on to adopt these happy couple habits and actually live happily ever after.
They put down their devices.
“Even if we only have five to 10 minutes before one or the other of us has to rush out the door or get on the phone, we sit down to have tea. No phones or iPads allowed. No claiming we don’t have time. Maybe we talk about something coming up in our day or something in the news. Maybe we just sit quietly. With life being as crazy busy as it is, it’s a way to slow down and connect before we launch into the day.” ― Winifred M. Reilly, marriage and family therapist
They smile, no matter how tired they are.
“Mornings can be hectic for most people but it’s important to be able to at least smile at your partner. Even when trying to get ready and out the door, many happy couples find it natural to give a quick smile when interacting with their partner.” ― Dr. Marie Land, psychologist
“My husband leaves for work before I can even imagine getting up and being a fully functional human being. So every morning after he’s gotten ready, he climbs back in bed and pulls me in close. And that five minutes, being close to one another, breath by breath, it’s the best way to start our day.” ― Meg Conley, marriage blogger
They try to get up around the same time when they can.
“Too many couples have two completely different morning routines and often barely see or speak to each other in the morning. I know of many partners who don’t even get up before their significant other is out of the house for the day—and it’s not because he leaves at 4 a.m. or because she worked a swing shift. They just sleep late. As a couple, they don’t make it important to connect at the beginning of the day.” ― Dr. Kurt Smith, therapist who specialises in counseling for men