This Is What Unhappiness Looks Like, According to a Psychologist
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Unhappiness could be defined as a permanent state of discontent; you're always focused on what you don't have instead of what you do. Needless to say, this mentality can erode your overall quality of life, negatively influencing your career, relationships, and well-being. Psychologist and LinkedIn influencer Dr. Travis Bradberry, co-author of the best-selling book Emotional Intelligence 2.0, recently took a closer look at the life habits of chronically unhappy people, and we were struck by how common some of them were.
Most notably, Bradberry found that unhappy people are always waiting for the future, allowing the phrase "I'll be happy when…" to chart life's course. "[This way of thinking] puts too much emphasis on circumstances, and improved circumstances don't lead to happiness," he writes. "Instead, focus on being happy right now, in the present moment, because there’s no guarantee of the future."
In addition to a lack of mindfulness, unhappy people also spend too much time and money acquiring "things," avoid socialising, and view themselves as a victim. "[These] people tend to operate from the default position that life is both hard and out of their control," writes Bradberry. "While everyone is certainly entitled to feel down every once in a while, it’s important to recognise when you’re letting this affect your outlook on life." Remember that bad things happen to everyone and that you have the ability to determine your own future.
Head over to LinkedIn for Dr. Bradberry's full piece, and share your thoughts on his advice below!