A "100 List" Is the Secret to This Editor's Healthy Long-Term Relationship
In case you missed it, there's been more of a focus on relationship talk lately. And while sometimes looking to celebrity romances for little insights into their partnerships can be enlightening, true results can be found by listening to everyday couples and their expert advice on the subject.
This theme of building successful relationships has inevitably led to interesting office banter of late regarding our own relationships. Within those, I've found some golden pieces of advice too good to keep just within these four walls. So, last Friday, the MyDomaine Australia editors decided to have a chat online about our own experiences to share the tips and tricks we've all learned over the years.
Keep scrolling for the key points we discussed, then watch the video below for a full explanation.
TIP #1: QUALITY TIME LOOKS DIFFERENT FOR EVERY COUPLE
Our editorial director, Amanda Stavropoulos is one busy woman, but instead of feeling guilty about regular date nights, she's figured out how to make quality time work for both her and her husband Jason.
"We don't call them date nights, or schedule them in like once a month, but whenever it feels like we haven't spent that much time together, we'll just say 'Hey, meet me here for dinner tonight at this time,' and we'll just go. It makes it more special when you're not coming from the same home and when you meet there.
"On our fridge, we have a list of 100 restaurants we want to try, so that's what we make our way through. And we leave our phones in the car, actually, I lie, we leave our phones face down on the table. But we try really hard just to hang out."
TIP #2: RECOGNISE THE STRENGTHS IN YOUR PARTNERSHIP
When talking about her own relationship, our commercial editor, Crystal Andrews, reflects on the benefits of being in a trusting partnership.
"I think that's a nice space to be in, where you understand their life, their lifestyle, and their background and why they think and act the way that they do, it's really nice to know why.
"Whereas when you're in the first stages of dating someone, it's like their this mysterious, foreign entity, but then you get on the same wavelength, so it doesn't matter that you don't see them all the time if they're studying, and it's even more special when you do."
TIP #3: HAVE SPECIFIC RULES OF ENGAGEMENT
Fighting fair is know to help partnerships last longer, during the chat I shared my own hacks for fighting. "For me, we're not allowed to go to bed angry. He's not allowed to sleep until [the fight] is done."
Andrews also had a useful tip, "The biggest takeaway for me, is having a conversation about the 'why'. Because it's never about the surface level subject, so it's important to find why the other person is reacting the way they are."
TIP #4: YOU DON'T ALWAYS HAVE TO WIN
To conclude, I shared one of the best marriage tips I learned from my mum: "Before I got married my mum always said to me, 'Stop trying to win.' She said, 'Your goal should always try to be to serve him the best you can, so that he can be the best he can, and if he does that same, you'll be in a really happy relationship.'"
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