Happy Couples Can Answer These 5 Questions—Can You?
We share the nitty-gritty details of life with our significant others, but it's surprising how rarely couples discuss their futures. In a recent Fidelity Investment study in the US, couples were asked a series of questions to rate how in tune they were. While 72% said they "communicate exceptionally," Fidelity's Michelle Tessier says the majority gave very different answers to basic financial questions when interviewed alone.
So, how often do you chat to your S.O. about your goals and aspirations? In a recent article, The Huffington Post charted the leading questions anyone in a serious relationship should broach.
Turn off Netflix, and pour a glass of wine. These are the top five questions every couple should ask before tying the knot.
How much money in the bank would make you happy?
With almost half of all married couples unable to identify their partner's salary, it's clear we need to talk about money. Find out what your partner's savings aspirations are and how he or she would use that money - maybe their priorities lie in areas you never knew: travel, having seven children, building their own boat?
The reality is, a lot of people are funny about money and as a couple, you don't want to be funny with each other.
Where do you see yourself 10 years from now?
"It's surprising how rarely couples talk about long-term plans, like retirement," says Tessier. Ask your partner where they believe they will be in their career and living situation in 10 years time. The answer could surprise you. Do they want to work part-time after 40? Do they want to be a stay-at-home parent? You're making your future together, so it's only right you understand what they want their future to be.
What's your ultimate career goal?
What if they have their heart secretly set on starting their own business? Or moving into an exec role in the New York office? Starting a business or stepping into a big corporate role could call on support from your spouse, so it's well worth discussing early.
Do you want to live overseas?
Making a big life decision when you're single is simple, but being in a relationship means taking your partner's dreams and goals into account, too. Ask how he or she feels about travelling or where they'd like to live in the future. Are you up for moving to Mongolia? Maybe not, but your partner might fancy it.
How do you feel about having children?
Go beyond a yes/no answer, and talk about creating a family. How many children do you want to have? Where do you want to raise them? What qualities from their own childhood do they want to incorporate into your children's lives? It's a big question, so early discussion is vital.
What do you like to talk about with your partner? Tell us in the comments below!