Women With Tidy Homes Tend to Follow This Expert Advice
So, the minimalist life is a burgeoning trend at the moment. And while we like to think we follow the less is more school of thought, when it comes to the actual process of ditching pre-loved items, filling up donation bags is often easier said than done.
According to psychologist Jennifer Baumgartner on Psychology Today, this is because our belongings—no matter how ignored in day-to-day life—can carry significant emotional weight. “We often infuse our junk with the spirit of a moment in time, associating the tangible with the intangible. Our junk becomes the object upon which we project our internal experience that we have yet to recognise in ourselves,” says Baumgartner.
Basically, what minimalist folk don't tend to mention when attempting to convince you of the benefits of throwing away clutter, is that there can be strong emotional strings attached to our things. Whether they be nostalgic memories of a first couples trip, or pride in the liberation you felt when buying your first piece of grown up décor, emotions can attach themselves to even abandoned items surprisingly strongly.
In light of this, we're looking at three things to think about before reaching for that extra-large garbage bag.
Adopt a personal mantra
We have a habitual dedication to making New Year's resolutions, and long-term professional goals, but when it comes to our homes, lack of direction often leads to poor purchase choices (guilty). Whether you are after clean lines and little distraction, or a mid-century modern aesthetic that revolves around retro finds, penning a short statement about what you want your space to achieve can help you edit items you no longer need.
Weigh up the emotional cost
Queen of the tidying revolution, Marie Kondo says, "It's important to understand your ownership patterns because it is an expression of values that guide your life. The question of what you want to own is actually the question of how you want to live." As you start to think of objects as an expression of your values, consider each item you are unsure about individually and assess whether it serves an emotional purpose. If not, well, you know what to do.
Kondo must be onto something if she's forged an empire based on cleaning principles.
The idea here is to set smaller, or micro-goals, in order to eventually achieve the larger goals you never get around to taking on, bit by bit. So, if the idea of sorting out your entire apartment sends you into a panic frenzy—and if it does, we don't blame you—try starting with one corner or a single shelf. Much less overwhelming, right? Plot your micro-goals in your diary so you have a clear date to finish by.
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