Chriselle Lim Shares 11 Touching Lessons She Learned from Her Mum
You know Chriselle Lim as the fashion mogul of The Chriselle Factor, the L.A.-based style blog that’s not reached international fame. The beauty maven has recently become a new mum. Here, Chriselle shares her experiences in navigating the challenges and thrills of early motherhood.
First of all: Happy Mother’s Day! I’m incredibly excited and honoured to be a contributor for MyDomaine. As a new working mum, I find myself both inspired and challenged on a daily basis. To say the least, motherhood has been the most exciting, exhausting, humbling, and rewarding journey. This past year I’ve learned about the strengths I didn’t know I had and fears that I didn’t even know existed. I’m thankful for my mother who (relentlessly) taught my sister and me life lessons that I can now pass down to my daughter. This Mother’s Day, I thought it only appropriate to share the 11 lessons my mother taught me that I plan on teaching Chloe.
Dinner time meant family time in my household growing up. My mum would enforce that we sit at the table and eat as a family no matter how busy we were—TV and phones were off! As a kid, this was a very annoying rule to abide by, but I’m so thankful that my mum set the example for us. Some of my fondest memories were made at the dinner table. That is why my husband and I also decided to enforce the no cell phone rule.
One of my fondest memories growing up was waking up to the smell of my uom’s breakfast. She would rise at 5 or 6 a.m. just to make breakfast for me and my sister. This one was tough because I've never been a morning person, but ever since having my daughter Chloe, mornings are our favourite time of the day.
Chloe isn’t quite old enough to volunteer yet, but this is something I am looking forward to doing with her when she gets older. I grew up watching my parents always serving the needy and providing opportunities to the less fortunate. Because of them, this is something I’m passionate about as an adult. I hope I can show Chloe that she can make a valuable impact by giving back to her community. I want to teach her that no matter how much (or little) we have, there is always something we can share with others. It’s never too early to plant the seed of giving in our children’s hearts.
Thanks to my mother, music was a huge part of my childhood. I was part of the church choir and band growing up, clarinet proudly in hand! Chloe is the happiest when she’s around music. She’s enrolled in music and dance class, and it is her absolute favourite class to attend. She also adores the electronic keyboard my in-laws bought her.
My mum never picked up after me and my sister. As much as we hated it back then, we appreciate it now. As young as Chloe is, we have taught her to put all of her toys away after she plays with them. You can never enforce healthy habits too early!
It’s also never too early to teach children about finances! I’ve always had a piggy bank growing up, and my parents would make us save our money to buy the things we wanted with our own dime. Now we have a piggy bank for Chloe where she drops in the coins that we give her. Every time she picks up after herself, we give her a coin to drop into her piggy bank in. Of course she doesn't understand the meaning of “saving” or “finances” yet, but i’m hoping that these small gestures will encourage her to do so as she gets older.
Whenever I had friends over, my mum would prepare us amazing snacks and meals. My friends always loved coming over to my place because they knew that my mum would have a feast prepared. She welcomed my friends with open arms and treated them like family. Needless to say, our place was the spot to hang, and I was proud of that!
My mum was very in touch with her emotional self. I would watch her openly cry and laugh out loud—and I applaud her for that. She taught me that it’s ok to be my authentic self. I similarly want to encourage Chloe to be open about expressing her emotions.
Every Thursday night was date night for my parents for as long as I can remember. No matter what, they always carved out time for each other, and that is one of the best examples she could’ve set for me and my sister. My husband and I are practicing that, as well. We go on date nights every week. When you put your relationship as a priority, you are teaching your children to value the bond you have with your partner. This really is an important lesson for kids to see.
My mum suffered from heart disease and she always preached to us that, “Without health, you have nothing.” Watching her battle heart disease is something I will never forget. She was the first one up every morning to go on a morning walk. She even cooked healthy meals with ingredients from her own vegetable garden. She never gave up mentally, and always kept up her physical health. To this day, her actions have motivated me to take care of my body and be proactive about my health. As young as Chloe is, she is enrolled in many activities from dance to music to swim to gym class. We try to keep her physically active as much as possible, and hope this will encourage her to always maintain an active lifestyle.
Make sure to head on over to The Chriselle Factor, as I open up about mummy guilt, give tips on travelling with a baby, and even name 20 things that they don’t tell you about motherhood!
What lessons did your mum teach you that you’re passing on to your own children? Share your mother’s most unforgettable advice.
Opening Image: Chriselle Lim